Black-eyed Susans with no roots
“We need water now!”
What do you do when your husband isn’t home, your front porch doesn’t have stairs to the outside, you don’t want to carry all of the pots through the house, and it’s a two person job to get the pots onto the porch?
You wait.
I guess patience is a virtue.
(And in the meantime, shut the Jehovah’s Witnesses down by saying that you already believe in Jesus and you don’t want their magazine, go to a barbeque with friends from Covenant Group, and buy more dirt because you already used up 55 quarts of potting soil!)
Nik went up to Ocean City, NJ yesterday with Dan and Jeff to hang out with the guys for Memorial Day weekend. So today, after church, I drove up to Tina’s and we had fun doing some plant shopping. Then we came home and made some DRAMATIC changes to the front of our house. First and foremost, we cut back some azaleas which were terribly overgrown.
You may notice that you can actually see our neighbor’s house now! You may also notice that we can finally see the corner of our driveway. There were some really pretty stones in there and my neat soul is now satisfied by being able to see all four corners of our driveway. Underneath the bushes that were growing over the driveway, there was some beautiful compost and the bushes were trying to grow through the asphalt!
And here’s the pile that we managed to create. It’s huge! We also pruned the dogwood back some and did some more pruning of other bushes too. Tina calls pruning her “obsession”!
I am so, so glad to have those trees cut back. They’ve been annoying me since I moved in last summer! Unfortunately, some of the bushes we had to cut back almost the whole way so it will probably take them quite awhile to grow back. They were so overgrown that the whole inside of the bush was pretty much bare and dead. So, I was willing to sacrifice the bushes to get some order back. We’re going to plant some hostas or something in front of the bushes to help cover them up until they start to grow back.
After we did all that chopping and pruning, we planted my very first perennial flower bed! When we started there was nothing but lily of the valley everywhere. There had also been a few random azalea volunteers and I already dug all of those out. So, we moved the lily of the valley and then added Northern Sea Oats (the grass clump in the middle), campanula, black-eyed Susan, lavender, Shasta daisy, blazing star, hostas, and a few other random perennials that Tina gave me from her garden plus a few annuals. I don’t have any idea how it’s going to look or if what I have will go together. I also don’t really think that I like the lily of the valley the way it is now – in a border all the way around the bed. But I guess that’s the beauty of perennials – whatever I don’t like, I’ll just move to somewhere else!
We worked for about four hours. I am exceedingly grateful to Tina for helping me with all of this. She is an amazingly hard worker. She put me to shame! It was so nice to have someone to help me get moving and to be brave and just cut things down. And now I’m ready for bed!
Selah, Marcella, and Emily who were very busy washing bowls for the reception table decorations. Selah did a great job keeping up with the rinsing!

How did helping Addie build a tower morph into the adults’ obsession with reaching the ceiling? (This is the beginning of the tower’s sad demise.)

And finally, proof that Ezra can stand – he was actually doing it on his own that night!
And, p.s., Eric and Meggan do have very comfortable couches but for some reason, Sunday night, we were all sitting in the kitchen to talk. The kitchen certainly has power!

Hooray for Mom!
Thanks for bringing Poetry Thursday back Mom!
We were so busy!
Who has time for poetry
when the sis gets hitched?
“To join or unite closely”
This past weekend, Nik and I were blessed to be able to travel to Alaska for my sister Rachel’s wedding. We had a great time being with all of my family, including the SIX grandkids(!!), and the wedding itself was beautiful. Rachel was gorgeous!
It was very interesting to me to observe the different way that Drew’s family reacted to the wedding compared to ours. Rachel was the last of our five kids to get married; Drew was the first of the five in his family. We were very excited but almost nonchalant in our handling of the wedding – we know the drill, how it goes, how great it is to have another family member, etc. Drew’s family, on the other hand, seemed quite nervous and even upset. Not because of Rachel, but because they faced a great unknown. What will life in the Mickler family be like with another family member? A life with someone married to their eldest son? Observing them helped me remember what it was like when Eric and Meggan got married. We were pretty scared. Scared to see what would happen to our very tight family unit. Unsure of how Meggan would fit into the Judge paradigm. Not knowing if Eric would essentially be lost to us forever. Trusting that the awesome Meggan we had known up to the point of the wedding would continue to be awesome as Eric’s wife. All of our apprehensions and fears had nothing to do with Meggan. NOTHING. They had everything to do with the unknown. We loved being the way we were. We knew how to relate to each other. We didn’t know how it would be with another voice, another personality, another body at the dinner table.
And now – look at our riches:

Being still a relatively newly married wife (11 months on Friday!), I know that grafting is not easy. It involves cutting, pushing together, figuring out what’s important and what’s not. But I also know that grafting can produce a stronger tree and better fruit. So the Judge family sends its blessings to the Mickler family. We know you will love Rachel and will treasure the blessing of having her in your family, just as we treasure the blessing of having Nik, Meggan, Leah, Katie, six grandkids and now Drew in ours.
Well, clearly the rest of the Judge family is in Alaska because the Judge family blogs have been quiet for a couple days! I’m obviously the last one to fall into the Rachel wedding spell! Nik and I are off to a half day at school, a drive to DC, and then a flight to Anchorage! Ready or not, here we come!!
(It’s also our last chance to take a wedding picture like this one! So we’d better do a good job! )
All related items for the bridesmaid’s dress have been located. Success!!! So now I just have to figure out how to do my hair. What to do? What to do? I’m afraid I am spoiled for a lifetime because of Valerie’s incredible job on this:
That’s me with Thea Salomi at our wedding. I’m looking forward to seeing her in about 5 weeks.
But I’m even more looking forward to seeing my family in THREE DAYS!!!!!