Happy Birthday Kaitlyn!

We hope you have a very fun 3rd birthday!

We hope you enjoy your third birthday more than you enjoyed your encounter with this ice sculpture when you were one and a half!

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Watering!

We are so Montessori! 😉

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Wow! A Year!

Happy Birthday,  Baby Clara!  Congratulations on reaching the single digits! 🙂

Don’t worry – she’s a little bigger now.

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Happy Birthday Katie!

We love you and hope you have a fabulous day!

Yes, that really is Katie in there!  (Dog sledding is cold business!)

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KIOS: Parenting, Part 14: Wrap-up and Bonus Links

This post is part of my series, “Kickin’ It Old Skool: Why and How We Are Old-Fashioned” or KIOS for short.  If you’re new to the series, please read my disclaimer before continuing on.  I’m keeping a table of contents to this series here so you can see what I’ve already written about and what more there is to come. 

And, this is the end of my parenting series, unless, of course, I think of more things to write about later, which is likely, particularly as Ellie gets older.  Here are a few additional links related to the series.

1. Related to Part 1 (about attachment parenting) and really almost this whole parenting series:  I have been hesitant to jump into the furor over the TIME magazine article about attachment parenting, with its accompanying controversial cover picture of a mom nursing her three-year-old.  I’m not sure I can gather enough coherent thoughts together to make much sense.  There’s been a lot of good stuff written already though so here’s a few good places to start if you’d like to get the viewpoint from the attachment parenting side of the debate:

  • About the cover picture (and why TIME did a disservice to breastfeeding moms by using that particular picture, which was an outtake).  You’ve probably seen it but I think this picture would have been a much better choice.
  • An interview with all the moms who participated in the photo shoot for the cover picture
  • A response from Attachment Parenting International, with points of agreement and also clarification.

2. Related to Part 2 and Part 8 (about eating):  We’re in the process of night weaning Ellie right now and have found this article by Dr. Jay Gordon to be very helpful to us, as we try to navigate this hard time with care and compassion for Ellie.  (Thanks to my SIL, Meggan, for recommending it to us.)  We’re following his method in spirit, if not in actual timing.

3. Related to Part 4 (about co-sleeping):  I notably did not discuss one particular issue related to co-sleeping and you may have noticed that omission and wondered about it.  Here’s another co-sleeping parent’s take on the issue.  (Note:  I’m not endorsing anything here, just giving you more resources!  And my cheeks are red even just giving you this link! :))

4. Related to Part 5 (about breastfeeding):  Yes, Ellie and I have a great nursing relationship now but it was oh so hard in the beginning.  And I know I very well could have given up if it hadn’t been for the support of Nik and my mom and because a wise friend had told us to save some baby present money for a lactation consultant and so we had help that way too.  I also had several amazing friends, who understood the value of breastfeeding and helped me through.  I understand how hard it is and yet, it’s really easy sometimes to come across as judgmental towards others who haven’t had the same support and the same path to success.  It’s hard to be a lactivist without also appearing to judge those who have made other decisions (for a variety of reasons).  While not exactly the same as my own thoughts and experience, I really appreciate Sarah’s powerful words in this article, “In which a lactivist is humbled“.

What questions do you have?  What more should I have covered that I didn’t?  Anything else you want to know?  Leave me a comment if you’ve got a question!

Look forward to posts about Eating, starting next week!

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KIOS: Parenting, Part 13: Two Bonus Ideas

This post is part of my series, “Kickin’ It Old Skool: Why and How We Are Old-Fashioned” or KIOS for short.  If you’re new to the series, please read my disclaimer before continuing on.  I’m keeping a table of contents to this series here so you can see what I’ve already written about and what more there is to come. 

And, finally, I’m just about written out of ideas for parenting!  Clearly, I’ve covered everything any parent could ever need to know about parenting! 😉

I do have a couple more thoughts to add, things that are important to us that I didn’t feel like giving their own post.  I also have one more post for today with some bonus links and then, we’re done with parenting and on with food!  Hooray!

So, here are two bonus ideas:

1. Babywearing:  I have LOVED wearing Ellie.  I used a mei tai when she was smaller (which I made), a Moby wrap for a little while until she outgrew it (weight-wise) and our Ergo from around 8 months of age.  Rather than a burden or an obligation to wear my baby every second, I’ve found wearing Ellie to be a crucial parenting tool, allowing me to soothe her (and sometimes put her to sleep) when nothing else would work.  It also allowed me to get so much more done around the house than if I’d had my hands/arms full of baby.  I honestly don’t know how people manage to parent an infant without having some way of wearing their baby.  I definitely didn’t feel like I had to wear her all the time.  If she was happy, I was more than happy to have her be down on the ground.  But for all those times when an baby just needs to be held, my mei tai and then the Ergo were absolutely indispensable, both to my sanity and Ellie’s happiness.

Ellie doesn’t like to be worn anymore, which is fine with my back.  But we do still keep the Ergo with us, for the occasional times when we need to go somewhere and a stroller doesn’t work.

It even works in the middle of winter!

Now Ellie wants to wear her bunny.  (I need to make her an Ellie-sized sling!)

2. Infant car seat = used only in the car:  Before Ellie was born, we decided that we didn’t want to use an infant car seat.  We had read some studies which showed that it’s not that safe for an infant to sleep in an infant car seat for long periods of time (due to potential oxygen flow restriction) and didn’t want to get into the habit of leaving her in it.  We did borrow an infant car seat from some good friends of ours for the first few weeks but treated it as if it was immovable.  Around six weeks, we installed our convertible car seat (which we love), and haven’t looked back.

We were warned that we would be sorry to have to wake up a sleeping infant and we said that we were willing to accept those consequences.  Two things have made this decision easier for us: early on, Ellie HATED her car seat and rarely fell asleep in it and once she got older (and continuing up to present), she transfers quite easily from car seat to bed if she’s asleep.  She usually just nurses for a couple minutes once we’re inside and falls right back to sleep.  Even if those things weren’t true, we would still be committed to this practice though. We wanted our baby in our arms as much as possible, and not in a seat.  Plus, those things are SO heavy to carry when they have a baby in them!  My back/arms just couldn’t take it!

Here’s what the Maryland Family Health Administration has to say about infants sleeping in car seats:

Car seats should only be used for transportation purposes. The car seat should not be used as a place for infants to sleep or sit while not in transit. Sitting or sleeping in a semi-reclined position for excessive periods of time can be unhealthy for babies. When not being used for transportation, put your baby to sleep in her crib or bassinet or on the floor for tummy time. (source)

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When the weather page says, “Feels Like 98”

and it’s not even June yet, that’s when sometimes I question my sanity for moving to a place that even has weather forecasts that say things like, “heat advisory” and “high of 93”.  Then again, if I hadn’t moved here (almost 10 years ago!), I wouldn’t be married (for almost five years!) to my amazing husband and I wouldn’t have the privilege of of being this little girl’s mama.

I guess I’m not too crazy!

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Happy Birthday Mom!

Happy Birthday Nana!

We love you!

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KIOS: Parenting, Part 12: Homeschooling

This post is part of my series, “Kickin’ It Old Skool: Why and How We Are Old-Fashioned” or KIOS for short.  If you’re new to the series, please read my disclaimer before continuing on.  I’m keeping a table of contents to this series here so you can see what I’ve already written about and what more there is to come. 

The majority of the posts in this series have applied more to the “baby/toddler” stage of parenting than to older kids, which is understandable considering that we only have one baby and she’s just 19 months old!  This post and my last post are reaching more into the “as our child matures” realm and so will consequently be shorter on real-world experience and longer on theory and “we think this is what we’re going to do.” 

Nik only went to public school and I attended public school for most of my schooling.  Nik and I are both certified public school teachers.  Although I’m not currently teaching, Nik is a full-time high school teacher.

We see the irony in the fact that we’re planning on homeschooling Ellie.

Here’s why we’re planning on homeschooling her, in a nutshell:

1.  We don’t want Ellie to attend academic kindergarten. (If the public schools around here did play-based K, we might consider sending her but K in our public schools is really academically-focused.)

2. Having worked in an elementary school for a year (the year I was pregnant with Ellie) and consequently getting to observe K education first-hand, we don’t want Ellie to have to sit through all the wasted time that is inherent in educating 20+ little kids at the same time (regardless of how good the teacher is).

3.  We want the freedom to pick and choose the methods that Ellie will learn through. (So maybe Waldorf, maybe Montessori, maybe classical, who knows – we’ll wait and see until Ellie gets a little older and starts to show us her true colors when it comes to learning.)

As of right now, we’re committed to no preschool and homeschooling for kindergarten.  Each year, we’ll reevaluate and see what’s working and what’s not and make changes as necessary.  And of course, Ellie is only 19 months old.  So there’s lots of time between now and age 5 for us to reconsider as necessary.

In the meantime though, I’m not worrying about Ellie learning the alphabet just yet!

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How We Know Ellie Is Growing Up

1.  She really wants to dress herself.  Thankfully, she can still be conned into thinking she’s doing it all by herself, even though I’m helping make sure we don’t have backwards pants and that sort of thing.

2.  She uses a fork quite proficiently.

3.  She says Mama!!!!!!  Finally!
Funny enough though, she says “Mama” with a Greek accent. 🙂

4.  She loves to kiss and cuddle with her bunny (wrapped in a quilt that my grandma made for my dolls)!

Our baby isn’t a baby anymore!

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