This post is part of my series, “Kickin’ It Old Skool: Why and How We Are Old-Fashioned” or KIOS for short. If you’re new to the series, please read my disclaimer before continuing on. I’m keeping a table of contents to this series here so you can see what I’ve already written about and what more there is to come.
And, this is the end of my parenting series, unless, of course, I think of more things to write about later, which is likely, particularly as Ellie gets older. Here are a few additional links related to the series.
1. Related to Part 1 (about attachment parenting) and really almost this whole parenting series: I have been hesitant to jump into the furor over the TIME magazine article about attachment parenting, with its accompanying controversial cover picture of a mom nursing her three-year-old. I’m not sure I can gather enough coherent thoughts together to make much sense. There’s been a lot of good stuff written already though so here’s a few good places to start if you’d like to get the viewpoint from the attachment parenting side of the debate:
- About the cover picture (and why TIME did a disservice to breastfeeding moms by using that particular picture, which was an outtake). You’ve probably seen it but I think this picture would have been a much better choice.
- An interview with all the moms who participated in the photo shoot for the cover picture
- A response from Attachment Parenting International, with points of agreement and also clarification.
2. Related to Part 2 and Part 8 (about eating): We’re in the process of night weaning Ellie right now and have found this article by Dr. Jay Gordon to be very helpful to us, as we try to navigate this hard time with care and compassion for Ellie. (Thanks to my SIL, Meggan, for recommending it to us.) We’re following his method in spirit, if not in actual timing.
3. Related to Part 4 (about co-sleeping): I notably did not discuss one particular issue related to co-sleeping and you may have noticed that omission and wondered about it. Here’s another co-sleeping parent’s take on the issue. (Note: I’m not endorsing anything here, just giving you more resources! And my cheeks are red even just giving you this link! :))
4. Related to Part 5 (about breastfeeding): Yes, Ellie and I have a great nursing relationship now but it was oh so hard in the beginning. And I know I very well could have given up if it hadn’t been for the support of Nik and my mom and because a wise friend had told us to save some baby present money for a lactation consultant and so we had help that way too. I also had several amazing friends, who understood the value of breastfeeding and helped me through. I understand how hard it is and yet, it’s really easy sometimes to come across as judgmental towards others who haven’t had the same support and the same path to success. It’s hard to be a lactivist without also appearing to judge those who have made other decisions (for a variety of reasons). While not exactly the same as my own thoughts and experience, I really appreciate Sarah’s powerful words in this article, “In which a lactivist is humbled“.
What questions do you have? What more should I have covered that I didn’t? Anything else you want to know? Leave me a comment if you’ve got a question!
Look forward to posts about Eating, starting next week!