I Love Those Lips!

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Look! The White House Is Glad That Mark Was Born!

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Clearly, Mark is thrilled to have received a card from President and Mrs. Obama!

007 (800x533)“Welcome to the world!  Your arrival is a cause for great celebration for your proud family.  We wish you a long happy life filled with chances to learn, ideas to explore, people to love, and dreams to fulfill.  Sincerely, Barack and Michelle Obama”

Because, really, regardless of your politics, who doesn’t get excited to get a letter from the White House? 🙂  (Your baby can get one, too!)

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The Difference A Year Makes

Our precious Ellie is growing up!

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When Principles Meet Nostalgia

Nik and I have some fairly strong convictions on what kind of toys we want to have in our house.  I blogged about this more extensively in this post.  Specifically, we decided that we didn’t want to have any plastic toys in our house.* Along with no plastic toys, we also have decided that we don’t want any “branded” items in our house (namely, no Dora, no superheroes, no Angry Bird, etc.).*

Last fall, as I was continuing my quest to rid our house of unnecessary stuff (which seemingly will never end), I came across a box of my old dolls and doll clothes.  In that box was my old Cabbage Patch doll and my old Strawberry Shortcake doll.

I LOVED those dolls.  I have a picture from fourth grade of all the girls in my class who had Cabbage Patch dolls.  Mine was named Jobena Freda and she had a green cheerleader uniform.

Jobena Freda was almost all cloth except for her head, which was plastic.  Strawberry Shortcake had a plastic head plus plastic arms and legs.  She also smelled like strawberries (still!  25-30 years later!).  The smell of her breath was really comforting to me, even at age 36.

And so there was my dilemma:  I played with those dolls a lot.  My family gave them to me.  But they were made of plastic and they were branded – two things that Nik and I had definitely decided we didn’t want in our house.  Also, another change we made in our house years ago was to have nothing that was artificially scented (knowing that pretty nasty chemicals are used to create those scents).  So I knew that we weren’t going to have Ellie play with the dolls (and breath Strawberry Shortcake’s toxic breath) and that they would probably just live in a box.

So what did I do?  After a bit of agony, I sent them to Salvation Army.  It wasn’t a decision that I took lightly but ultimately, I decided that my good memories of those dolls were enough.  I didn’t need to also own the physical dolls and to have their presence taking up physical and emotional space in my life.

I did keep the doll clothes that my paternal grandmother sewed for those dolls.  Those clothes are precious to me and I think they might fit Ellie’s doll.  I also kept a few cloth dolls that my grandmother brought to me from other countries and a small doll that she made herself.  I am looking forward to telling Ellie about her great-grandmother while we play dolls with those things.

Now that it’s been a few months since I gave those dolls away, I think I can say I made the right decision.  It’s hard to find the balance between keeping and giving/throwing away.  In this situation, I’m glad I chose “give away”.

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*We certainly don’t keep Ellie from playing with plastic and/or branded toys when she is elsewhere.  Part of why she so loves going to Yiayia’s house is all the fun brightly-colored noisy toys!

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KIOS: Grooming, Part 3: Soap, Shampoo, and Toothpaste

This post is part of my series, “Kickin’ It Old Skool: Why and How We Are Old-Fashioned” or KIOS for short.  If you’re new to the series, please read my disclaimer before continuing on.  I’m keeping a table of contents to this series here so you can see what I’ve already written about and what more there is to come.

When it comes to grooming, the main products almost everyone uses are soap, shampoo, and toothpaste.  For those items, these are the five main ingredients that we avoid:

1. SLS/SLES – Sodium lauryl sulfate and sodium lauryeth sulfate are in almost anything that lathers (including toothpaste).  It’s known to irritate skin, lowers the skin’s immunological response, is thought to interfere with the body’s hormones, and can cause reproductive and developmental issues.

2. EDTA (of which, Tetrasodium EDTA is one kind) – a preservative that is terrible for the environment and can be a skin irritant.

3. Fragrances/phthalates – we avoid any product with fragrance in it unless the label lists “essential oil of [xyz]” as its fragrance source. Phthalates (thought to cause cancer and other health problems) are often disguised on labels as part of fragrances.  Most artificial fragrances also contain other nasty chemicals that aren’t disclosed on the ingredients list.  Unfortunately, most “fragrance-free” products also contain some of these crazy chemicals as masking agents to cover up the scents of the ingredients to make them fragrance-free.

4. Parabens – toxic preservatives that we avoid at all costs (butylparaben, ethylpareben, etc).  They are frequent offenders in almost anything related to personal care.

5. Artificial coloring – usually listed as a color and then a number (like Yellow 5).

We also avoid triclosan, which is the active ingredient in most antibacterial soaps.  It’s considered by many to be a hormone disruptor and is also ineffective at killing germs.

There are plenty of other sketchy ingredients to be concerned with in personal care products but if you avoid these five ingredients, you’re more likely to end up with a product that doesn’t have much else bad in it either.  I also find five to be more than enough to remember when I’m at the store and looking at a list of ingredients.

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Here is what we do use:

1. Soap:  We use simple bar soap anywhere in the house we need soap (kitchen sink, bathroom sink, shower).  We currently buy our soap from You and Me Soaps at the Waverly Farmers’ Market in Baltimore.  At $10 for 3 bars of soap, it’s by far the most affordable locally-made soap we’ve found.  Her soap has just a few simple ingredients.  I tend to gravitate towards the low/no scent bars but she does have some nicely scented ones too.  I do aspire to making my own soap.  I’ve read quite a bit about it and I think it’s relatively easy.  I just need to get over my fear of lye!

2. Shampoo:  We use Trader Joe’s Tea Tree Tingle, which, although not perfect, is relatively free of objectionable ingredients.  I blogged more about shampoo here.

3. Toothpaste: We (all of us, including Ellie) use Nature’s Gate Creme de Mint Natural Toothpaste.  Nature’s Gate’s ingredient list is not perfect but it’s working fine for us currently.  In particular, I’m still not sure what to think about glycerin as a toothpaste ingredient.   One weird (but nice!) side effect of buying toothpaste without SLS is that you don’t have the “OJ tastes disgusting after brushing” effect.  SLS blocks the sugar receptors on your tongue, which is why it tastes so gross to drink orange juice (or anything sweet) after you’ve brushed your teeth.

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Here’s why we don’t buy liquid hand soap anymore.  These are the ingredients in Dial Antibacterial Hand Soap (taken from their website).  While many of the ingredients are objectionable, I’ve bolded the items that I discussed in this blog post (the ones that we specifically avoid).  I must admit to a bit of sadness about not using Dial soap. My mom’s mom, Granny, always insisted that we washed our hands with Dial soap because she firmly believed it would keep us healthier.  We would have been better off washing our hands with simple soap and water.

Active Ingredient: Triclosan
Inactive Ingredients: Water, Sodium Laureth Sulfate, Cocamidopropyl Betaine, Sodium Chloride, Cocamidopropyl Hydroxysultaine, Glycerin, Fragrance, Polyquaternium-7, Ppg-2 Hydroxyethyl Coco/isostearamide, Dmdm Hydantoin, Tetrasodium Edta, Citric Acid, Yellow 5, Red 4

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  1. This website, “Ingredients- what’s in the stuff we buy?” was quite helpful in explaining the chemistry of many ingredients – particularly what function they play in a particular product.  It even has the chemical formulas for the ingredients, if you’re interested.
  2. The book, Easy Green Living, by Renee Loux was very helpful to me in eliminating toxins from all areas of our house, including skin/hair care products.
  3. The Environmental Working Group’s Skin Deep database is a great resource for information on this topic.
  4. More about triclosan.
  5. More about glycerin in toothpaste and a recipe for making your own toothpaste (maybe I’ll try it someday!)  Or how about homemade clay toothpaste?! 🙂
  6. Some info about why we find artificial colors objectionable.
  7. Theresa Carrington is the owner of You and Me Soaps.  She doesn’t have a website but leave me a comment if you want her contact information and I will email it to you.

Finally, much of what I’ve written above could disputed by some as not proven, based on bad science, etc.  However, we have chosen to err on the side of “it might be dangerous” rather than “it’s not that bad”.  We don’t have much(if anything) to lose by eliminating these chemicals from our home and potentially much to lose by continuing to use them.  So, although the science may be inconclusive, it’s an easy decision for us.

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I’ve Given Up

If you’ve been reading my blog for more than a few months, you may remember that I used to wish all my family members “Happy Birthday” with a birthday post that included a fun picture. (This post was one of my favorite ones.)

If you’ve only been reading my blog for the past six months or less, you have no idea what I’m talking about because I’ve definitely fallen off the birthday post wagon.

Part of the problem was that I got behind.  I missed Alex’s birthday in August and then Maria’s in September and then Gabe’s in October and then Alex’s in October and then Noah’s in October and then…(you get the picture).

So, I’m just going to make it official.  I can’t keep up, I’ve run out of funny pictures anyway, and I can’t handle the pressure any more.

To my family, happy birthday!  I hope you’re not crushed that your birthdays won’t be acknowledged in this little space anymore.

But don’t worry.  I still love you very much.

Love,
Your Auntie/Aunt/sister/sister-in-law/daughter Laura

P.S. Don’t be jealous if I manage to remember the birthdays of my husband and children.

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What I See In The Tilt Of The Head

This picture is perhaps a taste of things to come. (The teenage years?)

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And look!  Her hair is finally growing in!

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Mark Discovers His Tongue

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March Sewing: Look Mom! I Made A Skirt!

A couple weeks ago, I ordered some cotton voile to make a skirt.  Voile is a special fabric best suited for apparel.  It’s normally quite expensive but I got it for almost 70% off and I was pretty excited to try sewing with it.  My plan was to make myself a skirt with it for Easter.  After I got it, I realized that I was too scared to cut into it and that I needed to make a practice skirt first.  Then I realized that I would be doing really well to get one skirt done by Easter and definitely wouldn’t get two sewn.  So my practice skirt became my Easter skirt!

I started Friday night by drafting my pattern (using this book as my guide to making a basic drawstring A-line skirt).  Saturday afternoon and evening, I cut out, sewed, fitted, and finished my skirt.  Sunday morning, I wore it for Easter!  Awesome!

231 (533x800)Visitors to our house may notice that my skirt is the same fabric as our diaper pail bags!

All told, I only spent about 2 1/2 hours on the skirt.  It would have probably been under 2 hours except that my initial pattern was too big and so I had to spend a few minutes cutting down the skirt so that it would fit me.

Sewing clothes is something that I aspire to, particularly after recently reading Overdressed (highly recommended).  A simple skirt was a good start.  I want to make a fitted waist skirt next.  When that will happen is anyone’s guess but at least I’ve begun!

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On Abundance, Generosity, and Menu Planning

After Mark was born, our incredibly generous and loving friends brought us two meals a week for two months.  Nik’s mother, Tina, also brought at least one (and often more) meals a week.  Add in leftovers from those meals, and we rarely had to cook more than one or two times a week for all of January and February.

It was incredibly lovely to have other people shopping and cooking for us.  I know that we were able to rest so much better because of those meals.  It was also so nice not to have to do any menu planning!  My brain got a two-month break also and that was almost as nice as the break from not cooking!

A couple weeks ago, I was getting food out of our freezer while preparing dinner and thinking, “Why do we have all this food in here?  We have been doing a TERRIBLE job at eating out of our freezer!  That’s the point of all that food preservation in the fall! What is our problem?  Get with the system, Laura!”

Then I realized that actually, I was being a little hard on myself.  We hadn’t really had to feed ourselves for two months.  Add in a pregnant woman’s need to be abundantly prepared for anything (hence me buying eight dozen ears of sweet corn in September instead of our normal six dozen) and you get plenty of food.  We have sweet corn coming out our ears.

To Andreas and Nikki, Tina, Julie, Martha and Doug, Nicole and Stephen, Marie and Gabriel, Betsy and Dan, Steph and Ben, Ashley and Dan, Emily and Jacob, Carrie and Jeff, Becky and Randall, Kristen and Tim, Harmony and David, Lisa and Brody, Heather and Ryan, Stephanie and Justin, Anne and Jeremy, Hannah and Ben, and Joanna and Vic:

Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for your generosity and love to us.  If you find yourself in need of sweet corn, zucchini, broccoli, or pumpkin for any recipes, let us know!  We’d be happy to supply them to you out of the abundance of our freezer!

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