My Sleeping Tummy-Loving Boy

He’s getting so grown-up, I can hardly stand it!

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Nursing – The Perfect Travel Food

to commemorate World Breastfeeding Week 2013

091 (800x800)at a park in Arlington, VA, 8/4/2013

Traveling with a baby can be stressful.  Routines are disrupted and environments are unfamiliar.  We recently spend two weeks in Montana, a trip that involved a long plane ride as well as a nine-hour drive each way.  This past weekend, we visited Nik’s brother and his family in northern Virginia.  Both trips, Mark nursed voraciously and frequently.  He nursed when he was tired.  He nursed when he was sad.  Of course, he also nursed when he was hungry! 🙂

I was grateful for the ease of nursing, for the instant availability of human milk, for the comfort and familiarity I could give to him.

We nursed in all kinds of situations, in all kinds of locations, in close quarters with strangers in an airplane row, and outdoors.

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I’m so glad I have the privilege of nursing Mark (and Ellie too).  I can’t imagine traveling with a baby without being able to nurse!  As I said in 2011, nursing allowed both of us (this time Mark and me!) to feel comforted, connected, safe, and at home, regardless of where we were.

Even in a park while his big sister played.

See also my posts for World Breastfeeding Week in 2012 and in 2011.

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Books Are Good For Everything – Even Teething!

015 (800x533) 016 (800x533)Who doesn’t love Sheep In A Jeep? 🙂

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The Honeymoon Is Over

Mark is on the move.  He also has object permanence now so he’s not so easily distracted if I take something away from him.  He has started crying in protest if he really wants it!

Today, Ellie was crying because she didn’t want Mark to play with “the real toys”.  She only wanted him to have the “chewy toys”!  (By the way, isn’t that an adorable name for teethers?!)

Mark isn’t full-on all-fours crawling yet, but he definitely is rolling a TON and  pushing/pulling himself across the floor.  It’s not as noticeable as an Army crawl; rather, one minute he’s on one side of the room and then next thing you know, somehow he’s in a totally different place!  The look in his eyes says, “I want that thing and I’m going to get it.”

003 (800x533)He started out by his little ducky, which obviously was a little boring for his tastes!

And so, real life for all of us is here – Ellie is realizing that Mark is a real person with wants and desires who also wants to play with toys.  Mark is starting to assert himself too, moving himself over to my feet in the kitchen, asking to be picked up.  I am starting the “help the siblings navigate life together in peace and love” journey.

Don’t worry, we’re having fun too (amidst the tears and tantrums)! 🙂

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News Only A Mother Could Be Proud Of

Last week I received this message from Goodreads:

On behalf of the Goodreads team, I want to say thank you. You’re in the top 1% of reviewers on Goodreads! Your many thoughtful book reviews help make us a vibrant place for book lovers.

And our community has been growing! We now number more than 20 million members on Goodreads.

Every day readers from all over the world are connecting over a love of books. And our 25 million reviews – including yours – are a big part of that conversation.

Thank you for your support of Goodreads, and keep reading! I’m looking forward to seeing what you think of your next book!

Wow! Isn’t that so awesome?!  I find it pretty amazing that they’re able to employ enough people to read and assess all reviews written by more than 20 million people.  It’s clearly important to them to find the best reviewers out there.  This definitely makes me want to keep on reading and reviewing more and more and more books!

I’m also really honored to know that the higher ups at Goodreads are reading my “thoughtful” reviews and are looking forward to my next one.

[Or perhaps some computer just looked at the numbers of reviews written over the past year and took the top 1% of us.  Not so flattering but still – I guess I write a lot of reviews over there! Join me there if you want.]

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My Big Boy, Sleeping

It’s hard to believe he’s almost seven months!

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Color Book Tutorial/Sew-Along, Part 9: Binding the Book

This is Part Nine of my Color Book Tutorial/Sew-Along.  For an introduction to this tutorial, the finished book and links to all the other parts of this tutorial, see this post.

Finally, you’ve arrived at the last step of this project!  (And finally, I’m telling you how to do it.  Sorry it took me so long!)  Thankfully, this is the simplest step and your book will soon be finished.

1.  Gather your supplies. You’ll need the three pages of your book, white embroidery floss, scissors, needles (preferably a thin one and a thick one), and needle-nose pliers.  The pliers are optional but your fingers will be quite sore by the end if you don’t use them.  At the edges, it’s really difficult to get the needle through if you don’t have pliers.

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By two sizes of needle, I mean that you’ll want a thin embroidery needle for step 2.  After that, for actually sewing the book together, it will be easier (i.e. you’ll bend/break fewer needles) if you use a slightly thicker, stronger needle.  You can get away with just one needle if you don’t have both sizes but if you’re using a thin needle for binding, be prepared to ruin a needle or two in the process.

005 (800x533)thin needle on right, thicker needles in middle and on left

2.  Close the turning hole on each page, using a ladder stitch so that the stitches will be invisible.  I forgot to take pictures of this step.  (Sorry!  You would think I would have remembered, having had to sew nine pages together.  Oh well.)  Essentially, this is the same as sewing a quilt binding onto the back of a quilt, if you’ve done that before.  If you haven’t, here are several tutorials to help you figure out how to use a ladder stitch if you haven’t used one before:  Ladder Stitch Video, How to Sew A Pillow Closed By Hand, and/or Invisible Ladder Stitch for Quilt Binding.  (All three are about the same thing but I figured I’d give you several options to choose from, hoping that one makes sense.)  I usually use my knot-less start when doing this stitch.  (See the bonus tip at the bottom of this post for how to do a knot-less start.)

3.  Take out the red/pink/blue/brown page.  Anchor your thread at the top of the spine on the red/pink side, using a knot-less start.  Then put your needle through the spine seam, being careful not to catch the fabric on either side so that the needle is on the blue/brown side.  You may need to use the pliers to get the needle all the way through the seam.

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4.  Take out the cover page and put it with the red/blue page.

006 (800x534)Black and red should be touching.

Place them together, lining up the spine seams and the top edges of the pages.  If you chose Option A, your outside edges will also be aligned.  If you chose Option B, your second page will be slightly narrower than your front page, like this:

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5.  A bit of preliminary explanation:  For the rest of the process, you are going to be essentially doing a zigzag stitch through the spine of the book.  Your goal is to have tiny stitches which do not show.  However, if you did tiny straight up and down stitches, it would take far too many stitches to finish!  So on each side, you’ll take just a small stitch but angle your needle down through the spine to come out further along on the other side.  In addition, your goal is to put your needle between the two pieces of fabric that make up your spine seam, not catching the fabric on either side.  The stitches will NOT look like zigzags when viewed from the top (ideally, they won’t show at all).  They would only look like a zigzag if somehow you could look at them from the side, through all the layers of fabric.  It’s potentially a bit confusing, I know, but I hope it will make sense as you start to sew. 

With your needle and thread (which is already anchored), put your needle through the both pages in the spine seam at the very top of the book.  This is when you may need to use your pliers! Come out of the spine seam on the cover page side.  This can be a bit tricky to do.  You’ll get better at it as you go but it will involve repositioning the needle a lot.

Flip the book over and sew your next stitch by putting your needle in at an angle like this:

008 (800x533)Obviously not my very first stitch but you get the idea.

Your goal is to make a very tiny stitch that gets buried in the seam.  It should be invisible, or almost so, like this: stitch - invisibleHere, you can just barely see the stitch in the red but it’s not obvious at all.

Continue sewing the “zigzag” through the first two pages of the book until you reach the end.  Tie off your thread and hide the knot in the seam between the black and red pages.

6.  Repeat the process, using a new piece of thread (as in step #3) at the spine seam of the orange/green side.  Line up the spine seams (as in step #4) and repeat Step 5.

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When you reach the bottom of the book, hide the knot between the orange and blue pages.

**You can just sew all three pages together at once.  Although it’s not strictly necessary to sew the first two pages together and then add the second one, I found it much easier to keep them aligned perfectly if I was only sewing two together at a time.  The double sewing also strengthens the binding seam.  Strength is a desired quality in a toy for children. 🙂

You’re finished!  Hip Hip Hooray!

If anyone out there actually made one of these (or ever does in the future), please let me know!  Send me a picture or a link to your blog post!

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Late Afternoon Baby-Wearing Fun

As you may have guessed, this is a favorite “Baba and Ellie” activity – take a walk around the house, wearing Baby and Bear. 🙂 It’s a good thing our house has a complete circuit for easy walking (or running)!

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Matchy Matchy for P’s Ballet Birthday Party

Our friend, P, had her 3rd birthday party last Thursday.  Ellie is currently really interested in wearing the same clothes as I do (which has resulted in tantrums when, for example, she does not have a jean skirt to wear just like me).  On this particular occasion, thankfully, we were able to coordinate our outfits for the party.

008 (533x800) Not exactly the same but close enough to please the 2-year old

010 (533x800)Doesn’t she look so grown up with a clip in her hair? 🙂

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It was a ballet birthday party so there were a lot of little girls dancing in tutus.

013 (800x533) Think Twister meets musical chairs meets a dance party (as interpreted by toddlers).

014 (800x533)E and Ellie preferred to stay out of the craziness! 🙂

Ms. Sharla made a lovely cake for P but she preferred to have her mother blow out the candles for her.  Ms Sharla’s daughter, A, helped as well!

016 (800x534)012 (800x533)The fabulous cake baker!

All in all, it was a lovely time, made all the more fun by the matching outfits!

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KIOS: Grooming, Part 8: A Side Discussion About Fragrances (and why you should avoid them)

This post is part of my series, “Kickin’ It Old Skool: Why and How We Are Old-Fashioned” or KIOS for short.  If you’re new to the series, please read my disclaimer before continuing on.  I’m keeping a table of contents to this series here so you can see what I’ve already written about and what more there is to come.

Two months ago, a friend of mine (and reader of my blog) asked me to give her some resources related to why artificial fragrances are bad.  At the time I told her I’d get back to her in a couple weeks and here we are, two months later.  (Sorry, friend!)

This topic seems like an appropriate side discussion for the “KIOS: Grooming” section because so many of the products we use to take care of ourselves are laden with fragrances, both artificial and natural.  This is also true for the the vast majority of cleaning products.

Before we started to change the way we lived, I had all kinds of different scented items.  I’d always chosen an unscented laundry detergent and an unscented basic lotion.  But I did love a certain scented hand lotion from Bath and Body Works (whose name I can’t even remember now), I used tangerine body soap from the Body Shop, I wore Liz Claiborne perfume, and I used Herbal Essences shampoo and conditioner.  I also loved scented candles.  Along with all the other things wrong with those products, I now know that they were laden with artificial fragrances.

Why is this a bad thing? 

There is a “a significant loophole in the law [which] allows phthalates (and other chemicals) to be added to fragrances without disclosure to consumers.” (source)  In other words, when you read the word “fragrance” in a list of ingredients, you should insert “i.e. all kinds of crazy, possibly toxic chemicals” to get the complete picture.

Most of the chemicals used to create artificial fragrances are actually petrochemicals (i.e. made from petroleum).  These chemicals are usually toxic.  In addition, most artificial fragrances also contain phthalates, which are known endocrine disruptors and also suspected carcinogens.  (Endocrine disruptors are anything that interfere with hormonal functions in the body.)

Two other terms to be suspicious of are “fragrance-free” and “natural fragrance”.  Although seemingly better than products with fragrances, both those terms can be misleading.  Their use is not well-regulated and can still indicate the presence of undesirable chemicals, such as chemicals to mask the smells of the other ingredients in the lotion to make it “fragrance-free”.

So what do we do?

Simply put, we avoid fragrances.  You won’t find anything scented in our house (except for sunscreen, more about that here), unless the scent is specifically identified in the ingredient list as “essential oil of _______”.  This is the only way to be sure that there are not toxic chemicals lurking in the mix.

One consequence of having a household (and life) free from scents is that I easily get overloaded by scents when I am around them.  In particular, I’m very sensitive to the smell of laundry products (detergent, fabric softener, etc).  I know that my sensitivity to smells has greatly increased since I stopped bombarding my senses with smells all the time.  I can hardly stand to walk down the soap/detergent aisle at the grocery store (and rarely do).  I am thankful for this sensitivity actually.  I’m sure I enjoy real scents more as a consequence! 🙂

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There are two other categories of people to consider when making the decision about whether or not to use products with fragrance in them: children and those with chemical sensitivities.

Children:  In Simplicity Parenting, Kim John Payne discusses the need to simplify a child’s environment, include what they smell.  He points out that kids’ noses are assaulted by scents all day long – from cleaning and personal care products to candles and air-fresheners.

The amygdala…is the area associated with olfaction, or smell.  In a world that booms and buzzes, especially for children, you also have a cacophony of smells.  Too many smells.  All these competing, chemical perfumes get the amygdala firing, and cortisol and adrenalin pumping.

Simplify the smells and perfumes in your home, particularly in your child’s room.  One of the things that quiet the amygdala and promote a sense of safety and well-being for a young child is their own, albeit very subtle and fine natural scent, and the smell of their mother and father.  When we surround ourselves with chemical smells and perfumes, we miss out on an opportunity to calm and connect with our children. (emphasis added) (p. 91)

Those with chemical sensitivities:  Many people are extremely sensitive to fragrances.  They can often have allergy-like symptoms, including migraines and difficulty breathing.  The excessive use of fragrance in society can be quite debilitating for these people.  It’s practically impossible to avoid fragrances once you leave your home.  For example, during the holiday season at Joann Fabrics, they have cinnamon-scented pine cones in the entryway and in the checkout aisle.  I don’t have chemical sensitivities like this and I still feel sickened when walking by them.  If I did, I would have to avoid Joann’s entirely in November/December, not a good thing for a sewing-obsessed person!

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But Laura!  I have a signature scent!  How will I get by without wearing my perfume/cologne/scented lotion?

Ultimately, it’s your decision as to what you put onto your own body.  Before you make the decision to stop (or continue) wearing your favorite perfume/cologne, I would recommend researching the ingredients in it.  (This might be difficult.  I just spent five minutes searching for the ingredients in Chanel No. 5 and couldn’t easily find a list.)

As for me, I did have a signature scent (the Liz Claiborne in the red, triangular bottle) but I stopped wearing it because I decided the scent wasn’t worth the toxins.

If you don’t want the toxins but do want to wear perfume (and are willing to change your signature scent), then you can either make your own perfume or purchase perfume made from essential oils.  Search “organic perfume” and that should get you some options.

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If you’re accustomed to using air fresheners and/or scented candles, here are a couple things to try to make your house smell good without chemicals:

1.  Open all your windows and let a good amount of fresh air in, even when it’s really hot or cold outside.  Just a few minutes of fresh air can go a long ways towards making your house smell good again.

2. Put a few citrus slices (orange, lemon, or lime) in a pan with a good amount of water and some whole spices (like cinnamon sticks, whole cloves, and cardamom pods).  Put on low heat and let the delicious scent fill your house.  Make sure to keep an eye on it so it doesn’t boil dry.  Add water periodically as necessary.

3. Best of all, cook or bake something delicious to smell and to eat!

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Sources:

More about phthalates

More about endocrine disruptors

3, 163 ingredients hid behind the word ‘fragrance’

A list of chemicals to avoid, generally associated with fragrances

One university’s policy on the use of perfumes and scented products in order to make the work environment accommodating for all

11 Reasons to Avoid Cologne and Perfume

More reading about chemical sensitivity

More about essential oils in another KIOS post and in this post (which has a review of doTerra oils at the beginning and some good basic info about essential oils at the end)

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